Do you hate awkward silence between conversations? Me too. That happens due to lack of conversation skills. We all want to talk and want to influence others, but we lack the essential skill to become good at talking to people.
This article will tell you the basic principles that gonna make you a better conversationalist. The conversation is an essential part of our daily lives. Our image in society depends on how good we can speak. The main aim of this article is to teach how you can live a happy life you will know how to be a good conversationalist.
Things to Do When Talking to Someone.
- Don’t Criticize People.
No one wants to admit their faults. If you think that you will make someone realize his/her fault, there are 95% chances that his/her response will not be well. You can criticize those who ask for it or your students.
- Control Your Facial Expressions.
We see that when someone tells us something bad or something we don’t want to hear, we become angry and we let our face express that expression, which often leads to resentment.
- Be an active listener.
Never show that you are not interested to talk to people when you are trying to be a good conversationalist. Listen to what others are saying carefully. The reality is everyone wants to talk about themselves, no one is interested in what you say. There are very few people who want to listen to you so be careful
- Speak Less.
This trick works most of the time. Speak less, listen more and urge another person to talk about himself.
- A Smile.
This trick should be used where your relationships matter. You should have a little smile on your face when you are talking to your friends, classmates, siblings or parents.
- Start with a Question.
Yes! you can start a conversation with a question and most of us already do this. You ask ” How are you? ” or ” Weather is good today, isn’t ” etc.
- Never Overshare!
Never speak more than enough, I mean don’t overshare what you know. Sometimes oversharing leads to many problems. Speak the calculated amount of words.
- Know-How to End Conversation Politely.
Majority of people don’t know how to finish conversations, they end almost all of their conversations awkwardly. We should know when and how to end conversations. Here are some tips: Say Thank you or Goodbye, Ask for connecting on Social Media, Ask directions and walk away politely, Say you have to do an urgent call and walk away politely etc.
- Talk about Their Interests.
Imagine I am going to meet a Pilot and I start talking about Bacteria, wouldn’t that be Weird? He will try to ignore me next time. So when you are going to a pilot, talk about planes and places means talk about the other person’s interests. This will make your conversation better.
These are some basic and practical ways of improving your conversation skills, once you understand and apply these your 70% conversation related problems will solve automatically and for more research on this topic, I am listing some resources so you can learn from them.
YouTube Links on Communication Skills.
Books about Communication Skills
- Blink by Malcolm Gladwell
- How to Win Friends and Influence People By Dale Carnegie
- Games People Play by Eric Berne
- Influence by Robert B. Cialdini
- Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
I hope this article helped you! 🙂
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